Motivational Tip: “Let Me Be What I Am”

Let me be what I am

by Sharlene Samuel

Let me be what I am

Not what you wish for me.

I cannot fit into your plan;

That’s not the life for me.

The pomp and pride of yesterday

Have vanished in the air;

The honest human being today

Must be free from inward fear.

I’ll do the things I want to,

Whene’er I feel the need;

Not stifle my feelings as you do

By trying to keep a creed.

I’ll talk, I’ll sing, I’ll dance, I’ll shout,

I’ll run, I’ll skip, I’ll play;

I must be free as I move about

Not be burdened with each day.

I thank You Lord, for nature’s gifts

So plenteous an free;

The rising sun behind the cliffs,

The earth, the sky, the sea.

Why then should I not happy be?

Why live as if in pain?

Why waste the gifts God gives to me

By living life in vain?

Material wealth is not for me;

Its price is much too high.

Nature’s gifts are pure and free,

I’ll enjoy them till I die.

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Natural Hair Blog Feature – Ms. Saran King

I am featured on Islandkynks!




Ms. King is our following guest and she is such a dear.

With her doll face, amazing hair and gorgeous smile, she is a true beauty and hard worker!

Here is herNatural Hair Story,enjoy my ladies: 

1) Please introduce your amazing self.

A:  My name is Saran P King. I am a physician by profession and passionate about living a healthy lifestyle. I am also totally in love and obsessed with my natural hair.

2) Did you Transition, Big Chop, Both or Natural from Birth?

A: The first time I transitioned my hair it was because it came out bone straight which I didn’t like very much and the second time because of severe breakage.

3) How long have you been natural?

A: I have been natural all my childhood days and most of my adult life. While in university I wanted a change of…

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Love is Love


Do you believe

The words escaped

Her lips in a whisper

Almost as though

She had exhaled

The words like spent air

Technically, carbon dioxide

My grandmother

Was not prone

To speaking at length

Actually, I knew her

Not to talk at all

As she died

Long before I was

A twinkle in my parent’s eyes

And yet her she sat

On the corner of my bed

This was a dream

Or so I kept

Repeating to myself

Still, I did not

Pinch myself, thinking

It would be a tad


Then she repeated

Her question

This time louder

This time with an object

As well as a subject and verb

Do you believe in love?

I looked away

How do you explain

To your grandmother

That you had closed your heart

And chose not to love

Chose not to seek it

Chose not to let it in

Coolness touched my chin

Turning my head

So that I met her gaze

She waited

She would have waited

From now to forever

I had no choice

But to be honest

She listened

As I emptied my soul

Into the night

She listened as the moon

Traveled west

And the stars watched

Then she whispered again

Love is love

Love is not a missing pen

That you have to look

High and low for

Love is out in the open

And if you continue

To look for it in

Nooks and crannies

You will never find it

Love is not for one

Who hides their heart

Afraid that it would

Be abused

That it would

Be broken

If you do not

Can not love

How can you be loved?

This night

As the full, shiny moon

Traversed west

A dead grandmother

Taught her granddaughter

How to love again

And as the weight

Of the Sandman’s

Sands closed my eyes

I felt coolness

On my forehead

Where my grandmother

Kissed me goodnight

I saw her twice more

In my lifetime

Once, on the eve

Of my wedding day

She taught me

How to love my husband

The second time

Was when my newborn child

Slept in the cot beside me

She taught me

How to love my child

Every time I saw her

She whispered

Love is love

By Kimolisa Mings

From “She Wanted A Love Poem”

Hair Tips: The secrets that are not secrets after all

How to retain moisture and length in natural hair

natural hair

natural hair

  1. Clean hair and scalp: The first step to retaining moisture and ultimately retaining length, [if that is your goal], is to work with a clean canvas. The scalp and length of the strands must be kept clean in order to give it a better chance of absorbing the well needed moisture to keep your hair soft and manageable. Weather you follow the no shampoo method, also known as the girl method or you have a tweeny weeny afro (twa), at the in between stage or have waist long hair, hair must be kept clean. You may have to spend a little time figuring out what works for your hair depending on the porosity, density, length and texture by researching and experimenting. Depending on your preference and life style you may wash your hair as often as every day, every week or once a month. It is important to find out what works for you and stick to that method. It is important to note that your hair regimen may change other time depending on the length and lifestyle.
  2. Styling choice: There have been many debates whether one should adapt protective styles or not to retain length. Once again it is a matter of choice and goal set. For me, my hair prefers to be in protective styles such as buns and twists because it is prone to drying, so I rarely have my hair loose. But for others, they are able to wear their hair loose and still retain length. One thing is certain is that too much stress must not be placed on the strands and especially the edges which are easiest to break. Choose your styles based on your preference and daily activities.
  3. Tracking length: Note that although the average growth of hair is ½ inch per month, that does not mean that you will retain that amount. It is important to remember that everybody has different growth rates and you have to find out how fast your hair grows and how much of that you retain. If you are retaining much less than your hair is growing then it may seem like your hair is not growing. If that is the case, you should investigate the reasons why and put steps in place to correct or change as needed. It is also important not to compare your hair growth with others, if you are doing all that you can to preserve your strands, length will come, so don’t obsess over it [because it is pretty over rated ;-)]
  4. Health: Physical and mental health are often over looked factors in hair growth. Hair and nails are the last places on the body to receive nutrients. So it is essential that you are eating well and exercising both your body and your mind. Stress plays a big part in retaining length, whether it is positive or negative stress. You should know your stress level and find ways to manage it effectively if it is negatively affecting your health.
  5. Handle with care: Natural hair, especially naturally curly-kinky hair, is very fragile with all the twists and bends in every strand. You could be doing all of the about but if you are rough with your hair, you will be sabotaging all the hard work that you put in over the months. It is advised that if you are having a bad day or not in the mood to do your hair, just leave it alone, gel it down or wear a scarf or hat. You may cause more harm than good by venting on your strands. Leave your hair until you are better able to handle your hair with more gentle hands.
  6. Patience Patience Patience: Hair does not grow over night, so it is imperative that you exercise just a little patience. Sometimes we get caught up with seeing growth or getting to a certain length to achieve a hair style that we have been wishing to try, that we don’t enjoy the length we have at the time. Hair grows, it breaks or we cut it, then it growth again. Enjoy the stage that you are at until you get to the next stage then enjoy that stage, so in the end you are enjoying every moment without missing a beat. You may enjoy a particular length and may choose to keep it at that length and that is also fine.
  7. To trim or not to trim, that is the question!: There have been many discussions on trimming the ends of your hair or not. The reality is that, because natural hair is natural curly, fragile and prone to dryness, then wear and tear will come, especially the longer it gets. The ends of the hair, the oldest and weakest part of our hair, will, over time develop split ends and single strand knots, although split ends and knots can occur along any part of the strand, it is most commonly seen at the ends. Contrary to popular belief, you cannot repair split ends or unravel single strand knots. The only way to get rid of them, is to get rid of them, by cut them with a well sharpened barber scissors before they travel the length of the strand. The frequency of trimming or dusting the ends is entirely up to you and the state of your hair. Note though that if you are trimming your hair faster than it is growing, you will not retain length.
  8. Water is your friend: Apart from needing water to clean your hair, water is the only product that truly moisturizes your strands. All products that are not water based are just sealant and merely seals in the water that adds moisture to the hair. If your hair is not sufficiently moisturized, the hair can feel dry and brittle and look limp. On the other hand, too much water in the strands can cause the strands to become swollen, making the hair heavy also giving it a limp feeling. In addition, the hair can have a “mushy” or wet feeling. Again, when you learn your hair, you will know the quantity or water to apply to the hair and the frequency in which it should be applied. So learn your hair and find that middle ground. Once you know that amount of water your hair needs, learn what are the best products to seal in that moisture. There are some who follow the LOC method, which stands for Liquid, Oil, Cream. This method may not work for everyone so may need to experiment a bit to see what works best for your hair.
  9. Loving what you got: The unique thing about naturally kinky, curly, coily hair, is that no too heads are exactly alike. They may look and feel similar and may even require the same products but every head of hair is different. The one thing I like to tell other is that you should never compare your hair to another person’s hair. It is a plus when you learn to love your hair just the way it is and if you want a change, you can add colour, cut it and style it to suit your preference. But fall in love, fall head over heels even with your tresses, they are yours and they were perfectly made just for you. When you can appreciate what you were given you can enjoy your hair even more.
  10. Is it just hair: There have been many a discussion on the topic, so what is the answer!, is it JUST hair? It is hair, yes that is correct but for me it is a little more than hair. For me, my hair tells many stories about my heritage and ancestors, where I came from and where I am today. It reminds me that I did not create myself and there is one most powerful, all knowing who created me and I was created imperfectly perfect in his image. It makes me feel myself and alive when I am able to wear my natural hair. I also feel fortunate to even have hair, a privilege that many to not possess, so I wear my hair for them. I am more confident with my hair, the hair that I was born with and not ashamed to wear. I wear my hair for the little girls who may feel pressured to adding chemicals to their sensitive scalps because either society or their peers tell them that they are not pretty or professional enough with their hair. So more me, it is much more than hair. So wear your hair proud because its yours.

Ms. Saran – Feature Story on Maicurls

I am featured on Maicurls!


Hey Maicurlies,

It has been a little while since I’ve been privileged to feature a beautiful natural head on my blog so without further-ado I would like to introduce you to the gorgeous natural-head Ms. Saran, owner of AntiguaBarbudaGirl.

Saran - AntiguaBarbudaGirl

Saran is an “Old timer” Natural who has been natural for pretty much all her life (the things we can learn from her!) She was kind enough to share her story and experiences with me and I am honored to share them with you. (Thank you for sharing Saran !) 

You can read all about Saran ‘s journey over here

Also, if you happen to be on the hunt for hair tutorials, hair care tips, poetry, healthy living ideas and motivation then you will want to visit AntiguaBarbudaGir! The blog is easy to follow with some great information and inspiration. 

Once again Thank You Saran for sharing your story with…

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Cricket lovely cricket!



“How is that?!”

The greatest game of ALL time “cricket”. You have not seen a ‘real’ cricket match until you have experienced one in the West Indies. I’m sure some of you can attest to that, those of you who watch the game at least. The song writer says “there’s nothing sweeter than salt fish,” but I disagree. There is nothing sweeter than a cricket match.

For those who are not familiar with the game and its rules, let me shed a little light, so you can better understand the game and how it is played. Cricket is a team sport that is played with a bat and ball between 2 teams, 11 players on each side, made up of a captain, bats men, bowlers, a wicket keeper and fielders. The game is played on a field also called a ground. In the middle of the field is a rectangular space of 22 yards called a pitch with 2 wickets placed on the farthest ends. Each wicket comprises of 3 stumps (vertical stakes) and 2 bails (horizontal stakes) that sits on top of the stumps. After a coin toss, the captain of the team that wins the toss, decides whether he or she wants to bat or field. The game may be 50 or 20 overs for each team for a days play, 6 balls per over. Some games however can run as long as 5 days in the case of a test match. The objective of the game is for the batting team to make as many runs in the allotted time with 2 bats men at a time while the fielding or bowling team attempts to dismiss the bats men in the same time given, using all 11 players on the field. There are 3 umpires in all who oversea the games play, 2 on the field and a 3rd umpire or video umpire who is situated off the field and adjudicates the game. I wouldn’t want to confuse anyone with all the positions on the field like the gulley, 3rd man, 2nd slip, mid off, fine leg, deep backward point, silly point, cover, extra cover, anybody confused yet? I still am at times!

But a true West Indian knows that all of that is not what is really important. Anyone who has ever been to a cricket match in the Caribbean knows that it’s all about the atmosphere of the game. It’s all about the entertainment, it’s about the personalities and characters that you see and meet. It’s about the people you greet and the bonding experience with other West Indians and persons around the world. Certainly we want our team to win but we all enjoy the music that ‘chickies hifi’ (a local musical DJ) plays when a West Indian hits that new ball over and out of the stadium. We know it’s about the bar-b-que chicken that is hot and sizzling and local drinks readily available for purchase from any of the many vendors selling both inside and outside of the grounds. It’s about jumping for joy and screaming at the top of your lungs when a bats man hits a 4 or 6 or when the wicket keeper gets that crucial stumping just when the bats man looses concentration and steps out his crease. It’s about watching gravy (local entertainer) entertain the crowd as he displays his acrobatic skills on the stands during the breaks.

I can remember going to the school boys stand with my brother when we were in primary school. I would always get excited as we settled in with our lunch and snacks in our nap sack, water and juice on hand. Of course it was more exciting if West Indies was winning but if they weren’t, it was still ok because we were enjoying the atmosphere. I don’t remember knowing too much about the rules back then, neither was I ever keeping score. Good thing there was a score board, unless I would have been completely lost with who was winning and who was losing. Even without the score board you would be gently reminded of the winning team by the crowd’s reaction. If there was a lot of noise, laughing, happy faces and smiles, you know we were winning for sure. But if you heard more than your share of choice words, gloomy faces and arguing, then you know we were on the losing side.

But it’s not all fun and games for everyone, there are the die-hard fans, those persons who are very serious about the game and not interested in frolicking or chit chatting. These are the persons who would have their eyes fixed on the field, watching the players every move and criticizing or commenting every stroke of the ball and every over bowled. You would definitely know these fans as they sport off their small fm radios, that would constantly blast in their ears as they hang on to the commentators every descriptive words as the game progressed.

As the players take the tea break, the kiddy cricketers appropriately and smartly dressed for the occasion would take center stage as they mimic the adults they just saw with their tiny bats in hands, hopping and skipping around the field until it was time to resume the real game.

Definitely, no real game would be complete without seeing a visitor prance across the field dressed in nothing but their birthday suit, dodging the police officer with their many twist and turns, until they are eventually caught.

So you see, you can appreciate that watching a game of cricket is not limited to just watching the game but it’s about enjoying everything that surrounds it, from the entertainment on and off the field, from those in the party stand to the serious fans. It’s about the mouth watering food, great music and company. Watching cricket in the West Indies is a well rounded experience packed with a little of everything for everyone. Cricket lovely cricket!

The calypso below was written after the West Indies won the

 test match in 1950 against England at Lords

VICTORY CALYPSO – Egbert Moore (“Lord Beginner”)

Cricket lovely Cricket,

At Lord’s where I saw it;

Cricket lovely Cricket,

At Lord’s where I saw it;

Yardley tried his best

But Goddard won the test.

They gave the crowd plenty fun;

Second Test and West Indies won.


Chorus:With those two little pals of mine

Ramadhin and Valentine.


The King was there well attired,

So they started with Rae and Stollmeyer;

Stolly was hitting balls around the boundary;

But Wardle stopped him at twenty.

Rae had confidence,

So he put up a strong defence;

He saw the King was waiting to see,

So he gave him a century.


Chorus:With those two little pals of mine

Ramadhin and Valentine.


West Indies first innings total was three-twenty-six

Just as usual

When Bedser bowled Christiani

The whole thing collapsed quite easily;

England then went on,

And made one-hundred-fifty-one;

West Indies then had two-twenty lead

And Goddard said, “That’s nice indeed.”


Chorus:With those two little pals of mine

Ramadhin and Valentine.


Yardley wasn’t broken-hearted

When the second innings started;

Jenkins was like a target

Getting the first five in his basket.

But Gomez broke him down,

While Walcott licked them around;

He was not out for one-hundred and sixty-eight,

Leaving Yardley to contemplate.


Chorus:The bowling was superfine

Ramadhin and Valentine.


West Indies was feeling homely,

Their audience had them happy.

When Washbrook’s century had ended,

West Indies voices all blended.

Hats went in the air.

They jumped and shouted without fear;

So at Lord’s was the scenery

Bound to go down in history.


Chorus:After all was said and done

Second Test and the West Indies won!

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